There is noth­ing more won­der­ful than a moth­er’s love. There is also noth­ing more annoy­ing. Who else can proud­ly insist that you’re per­fect while simul­ta­ne­ous­ly mak­ing you ques­tion every career, fash­ion, and rela­tion­ship deci­sion you have ever made?

No one under­stands the del­i­cate moth­er-daugh­ter dynam­ic bet­ter than Kate Siegel and her own moth­er, who drove her so crazy that she decid­ed to broad­cast their hilar­i­ous con­ver­sa­tions on Insta­gram. Soon, hun­dreds of thou­sands of peo­ple were fol­low­ing their dai­ly text exchanges, eager to see what out­ra­geous thing Kate’s mom would do next. Now, in Moth­er, Can You NOT?, Kate pays trib­ute to the woman who invent­ed the con­cept of drone parenting.

From embar­rass­ing moments (like crash­ing Kate’s gyne­co­log­i­cal exams) to out­ra­geous sto­ries (like the time she made Kate steal a cat from the pound) to hilar­i­ous cel­e­bra­tions (includ­ing but not lim­it­ed to par­ties for Kate’s men­stru­al cycles), Moth­er, Can you NOT? lov­ing­ly lam­poons the lengths to which our moth­ers will go to bet­ter our lives — even when it feels like they’re ruin­ing them in the process.