Attached: The New Sci­ence of Adult Attach­ment and How It Can Help You Find-and Keep-Love

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August 28, 2013
We rely on sci­ence to tell us every­thing from what to eat to when and how long to exer­cise, but what about rela­tion­ships? Is there a sci­en­tif­ic expla­na­tion for why some peo­ple seem to nav­i­gate rela­tion­ships effort­less­ly, while oth­ers strug­gle? Accord­ing to psy­chi­a­trist and neu­ro­sci­en­tist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resound­ing yes.“

In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an under­stand­ing of adult attach­ment-the most advanced rela­tion­ship sci­ence in exis­tence today-can help us find and sus­tain love. Pio­neered by psy­chol­o­gist John Bowl­by in the 1950s, the field of attach­ment posits that each of us behaves in rela­tion­ships in one of three dis­tinct ways: 

  • Anx­ious peo­ple are often pre­oc­cu­pied with their rela­tion­ships and tend to wor­ry about their part­ner’s abil­i­ty to love them back
  • Avoidant peo­ple equate inti­ma­cy with a loss of inde­pen­dence and con­stant­ly try to min­i­mize closeness.
  • Secure peo­ple feel com­fort­able with inti­ma­cy and are usu­al­ly warm and loving.

In this book, Levine and Heller guide read­ers in deter­min­ing what attach­ment style they and their mate (or poten­tial mate) fol­low, offer­ing a road map for build­ing stronger, more ful­fill­ing con­nec­tions with the peo­ple they love.

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