Secrets and Lies is a compelling journey into the realm of secrets, offering insights for those who are hiding the truth and those who discover what has been hidden.
Isay was both a secret finder and keeper. After fifteen years of marriage her husband admitted he was gay, but together they decided to keep it a secret for the sake of their sons. Building on personal experience, sixty intimate interviews, and extensive research into the psychology of secrets, Isay shows how pain can be lightened by full disclosure, apology, and time. Sometimes the truth sunders relationships, but often it saves them.
Powered by detailed stories and Isay’s compassionate analysis, Secrets and Lies reveals how universal secrets are. The big ones — affairs, homosexuality, parentage, suicide, abuse, lost siblings, hidden religion — can be ruinous at first, but the effects need not last forever, and Isay shows us what makes the difference. With guidelines for those who keep secrets and those who find them out, Isay reveals the art of surviving a secret.