For men who often find themselves piloting a carload of children in a minivan, Rabbi Shmuley Boteach invites us all to sit up with pride in the driver’s seat.
In the first half of the book, Rabbi Boteach makes broad (and sometimes questionable) generalizations that American men hide their emotions in the pursuit of masculinity and material success. He becomes more compelling when he draws anecdotes from his experience as a university chaplain, radio host, and parent, praising the average American male as a hero, role model, and bread-winner of courage and dedication to family.
Describing the loveless and sexless marriages of people whom he has counseled, Rabbi Boteach claims that American women are broken too, busy pursuing thin bodies while feeling lonely in the company of so many emotionally distant and insecure men. Boteach’s references to Jewish sources of wisdom enrich the book as he challenges readers to replace their ambition for wealth and fame with ambition to serve God with humility. According to Boteach, if men can accept their own aging bodies, focus less on themselves while giving more to others, countless marriages will be saved and success will have a deeper meaning.