When a child raised in a non-Ortho­dox home becomes a ba’al teshu­vah (BT), fam­i­ly rela­tion­ships may become strained. Less obser­vant par­ents find it dif­fi­cult to cope with issues such as Shab­bat obser­vance, kashrut, and the rules of Pesach. Ms. Schwartz, the moth­er of a BT son, has writ­ten a guide to help main­tain shalom bay­it as fam­i­lies adjust to this sit­u­a­tion. She explains Ortho­dox obser­vance and tra­di­tions with humor and respect, telling par­ents to go into ​“Xanax mode” when their BT child becomes over zeal­ous and/​or self-right­eous. She also tells them how to kash­er a por­tion of their kitchen to enable the fam­i­ly to eat togeth­er and pro­vides infor­ma­tion about hol­i­day obser­vance and life cycle events. The book has a list of Web sites for fur­ther infor­ma­tion. Azriela Jaffe’s What Do You Mean You Can’t Eat in My Home? cov­ers sim­i­lar ter­ri­to­ry in a more seri­ous tone. This is a very use­ful book for fam­i­lies who want to main­tain good rela­tion­ships with mem­bers who have become observant.