So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex: Lay­ing Bare and Learn­ing to Repair Our Love Lives

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September 1, 2020

After more than 20 years of doing sex ther­a­py, Dr. Ian Kern­er is a Sher­lock Holmes of the bed­room‚ a sex­u­al detec­tive help­ing indi­vid­u­als and cou­ples solve the mys­tery of their sex­u­al dis­tress: low libido, the inabil­i­ty to per­form, sex­u­al anx­i­eties, erot­ic con­flicts, a secret desire they’re keep­ing from a part­ner (or even them­selves). And just like a detec­tive, one of the first things he does is return to the scene of the crime.” Dur­ing a first ses­sion with a new patient or cou­ple, he always asks: So, tell me about the last time you had sex.”

Kern­er will help to dis­till key insights:
Rec­og­niz­ing your desire frame­work” as well as your part­ner’s and cre­at­ing a shared desire framework.
Max­i­miz­ing both phys­i­cal and psy­cho­log­i­cal arousal and sheath­ing sex­u­al behav­iors in an erot­ic skin.”
Under­stand­ing why the sex­u­al brain needs to not just turn on but also turn off” (in order to enter in a sex­u­al flow state).
Embrac­ing the shake of a sex­u­al prob­lem and tap­ping into your unique sex­u­al personalities.

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