In 1980s L.A., Bon­nie, a Jew­ish psy­chol­o­gist, mar­ries Bob, a charis­mat­ic Hol­ly­wood com­e­dy writer whose fun­da­men­tal­ist Chris­t­ian child­hood has left him with sex­u­al shame. Their sec­u­lar mar­riage is pas­sion­ate and deep but marred by pow­er strug­gles over dif­fer­ent sex­u­al needs. Some­times it’s fun. Oth­er times Bon­nie is ashamed of sur­ren­der­ing to Bob’s sex­u­al requests. Bon­nie won­ders: How does one rec­on­cile deep love with unre­solv­able con­flict? How am I con­tribut­ing to the prob­lems? Should I have mar­ried a Jew­ish man as my par­ents wished? Bon­nie and Bob delight in each oth­er, but some­times when she refus­es to indulge him sex­u­al­ly, they fight. Even­tu­al­ly they cre­ate mutu­al peace, but sad­ly after 33 years togeth­er, Bob dies. As Bon­nie grieves, she gains some pow­er­ful insights, includ­ing how much Bob was like her moth­er — ador­ing, tal­ent­ed and hilar­i­ous, but also too con­trol­ling. Bonnie’s pro­fes­sion­al knowl­edge woven through her mar­i­tal expe­ri­ence cre­ates a com­pelling sto­ry about pow­er­ful uncon­scious moti­va­tions that influ­ence our choic­es. Her per­son­al jour­ney will inspire read­ers to see their own rela­tion­ships in a new light.